A Nigerian woman has sparked intense reactions online after a viral video showed her advising married women to consider having a “side man” as a way of coping with neglect in their marriages.
The controversial statement, which has been widely shared across social media, has divided opinion, with many condemning her stance while others focused on the underlying issue of emotional neglect in relationships.
Viral video stirs debate
In the trending clip, the woman argued that some marriages lack attention and affection, leaving many women feeling unseen and unappreciated.
She claimed that having a “side man” could help such women feel valued again and maintain their emotional stability.
“A side man will save your marriage… You think I’m lying? The man does not even give you attention. He doesn’t notice you anymore,” she said.
She went on to describe situations where women feel ignored for years, suggesting that seeking attention elsewhere could help them cope.
“Instead of going from one prayer house to another, get a side man. It will help you keep your sanity,” she added.
Mixed reactions online
Her remarks have triggered widespread backlash, with many social media users criticising the advice as harmful to marriages and promoting infidelity.
Others, however, argued that her comments highlight a deeper issue—emotional neglect in relationships—which they believe should be addressed through communication rather than secrecy.
The video continues to generate debate, with many weighing in on the balance between personal fulfillment and commitment within marriage.
Watch the video below…
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